When Acres Become Ego…

When Acres Become Ego: The Irish Obsession with Land...

How Many Farms Do You Actually Need? Ego, Greed, and the Irish Obsession with Land…

Ireland and land. It’s a love story, a war story, and a tragedy all rolled into one. For generations, land was a matter of survival; it fed families, kept the roof over their heads, and gave them standing in a world where standing mattered. I get it. My ancestors lived it.

But somewhere along the way, survival turned into status. Owning land became less about living and more about looking like the big guy. And let’s be real, some people in this country would sell their own shadow for another acre.

Why? Because in Ireland, land isn’t just dirt. It’s ego wrapped in green fields. It’s the family name written across a map. It’s being able to say at the pub, “Shur, I’ve a few hundred acres meself.” And the truth? That sentence has destroyed more families than poverty ever did.

I keep asking myself: How many farms do you actually need? How many fields does it take to fill that hole inside you? Because I’ve seen what greed does, it rots people from the inside out. The same hands that once lifted you up will push you down if it means an extra half-acre.

Here’s what’s worse: greed is contagious. One person starts grabbing, and suddenly the whole family’s in a silent war. They don’t talk about birthdays anymore; they talk about boundaries. Not boundaries of respect, actual boundaries, with maps, markers, and measuring tapes.

And let’s not forget the EGO. Oh, the ego! The puffed-up chest at the mart, the whispered comparisons at funerals:
“Did you hear he got another bit of land? Great man altogether.”
Great man, my arse. What good is a kingdom if you rule it alone because you drove everyone else away?

I’ll tell you what greed really does:
It destroys souls. It kills laughter. It turns blood into ink on legal documents.

And for what? So you can stand on a hill and say, “All this is mine.” Newsflash: someday it’ll be someone else’s, and you’ll just be another name on a headstone.

Here’s the kicker: land doesn’t make you big. Character does. And if your worth depends on the size of your farm, you’ve already gone bankrupt in the soul department.

What about you? Have you seen land rip families apart? Or is this madness just part of our Irish DNA? Pull up a chair, I’ve got tea and turf, and this rant isn’t over yet.


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13 responses to “When Acres Become Ego…”

  1. Painfully true. I’ve been fortunate to not experience it in my family, but I have been a spectator and watched how land (or other assets and greed) can go from being a blessing to a battleground. The tragedy is how often ego replaces family and legacy.

    –Scott

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    1. Thank you for this, Scott. It really is a tragedy, isn’t it? Watching something that should be a blessing tear people apart is heartbreaking, especially when ego and entitlement take center stage. Legacy should be about love, not leverage. I’m glad you’ve been spared it directly, but witnessing it can still leave its mark.
      Mae 🧡

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      1. THAT is extremely well said, Mae. I wish we all did a bit better in subduing our worst inclinations and nature. Be well, Mae!

        –Scott

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      2. Thanks Scott 🧡

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  2. When I read of hear about families squabbling over possessions as though it is the only thing that really matters in life, it is then that I realise how lucky I am to witness such events only from afar and not first hand.

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    1. You are lucky, and wise to see it that way, Tony. When you’ve seen it up close, the truth hits hard: it’s rarely about the possessions themselves. It’s ego, old wounds, power plays, all stirred up when grief is still fresh. From afar, it’s a cautionary tale. Up close, it can be heartbreaking.

      Sometimes I think the real inheritance people miss out on is peace of mind and a clean conscience. Those are far more valuable than anything written in a will.
      🧡

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      1. It’s sad how often monetary matters steal the limelight and breed animosity between brother and sister. I’ve witnessed it all too often. 😔

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      2. I’ve also seen it, Tony, and it really is heartbreaking. It’s like money becomes the stand-in for every old wound that was never spoken about. But honestly? I don’t give a damn about money anymore. Not if it costs peace, or my own soul. Some things just aren’t worth the price, and harmony is one of them.
        🧡

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      3. Only when you’ve seen through all the lies
        Do you really open your eyes.

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  3. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    Wow Mae… this is powerful, honest, and sad. It’s wonderfully written, but deeply troubling too. You said it perfectly: land doesn’t define worth, character does.

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    1. Thanks Willie🧡

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  4. This is in the top 5 of best posts, for sure. The whole thing could be quoted, but the following two are really awesome:

    “What good is a kingdom if you rule it alone because you drove everyone else away?”

    “And for what? So you can stand on a hill and say, “All this is mine.” Newsflash: someday it’ll be someone else’s, and you’ll just be another name on a headstone.”

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    1. Wow, thank you so much—that really means a lot. Those two lines came from a place of deep reflection, so knowing they landed with you is powerful. It’s remarkable how often people chase after legacy or control, forgetting how fleeting it all is. At the end of the day, connection matters more than conquest. Appreciate you reading with such heart. 🙏 🧡

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