So today, I was chatting with a few people about life, you know, the usual mix of good, bad, and bloody ridiculous. My blog came up, as it tends to when people realize I’ve got opinions and, worse, that I’m not afraid to use them.
Someone threw a question my way that caught me a bit off guard:
“Why are you airing your dirty laundry? That kind of stuff needs to stay behind closed doors.”
I’ll be honest, it gave me pause. Not because it made me doubt myself, but because it reminded me just how many people are still out here clutching their pearls over someone else’s truth.
I’m a straight shooter by nature. Always have been. But over the years, I’ve learned there’s no point wasting energy offering up my opinions to people who’ve already decided they don’t want to hear them. If your mind’s made up, I’ll save my breath. I’ll pour myself a cuppa, have a laugh with the dog, and move on.
Then came the follow-up:
“Why are you bashing your family?”
Ah, there it is. The old chestnut.
Let me be clear: I’m not bashing anyone. I’m telling my truth. My experiences. My life, as it happened to me. If my story makes you uncomfortable, maybe it’s not me you’re really mad at.
For years, I swallowed my feelings, kept quiet to “keep the peace,” and pretended things were fine when they weren’t. And you know what that got me? Resentment. Anxiety. A sense that my voice didn’t matter. That if speaking up meant upsetting the apple cart, I better just shut my mouth and smile pretty.
Well, here’s the thing, that apple cart already crashed. And it wasn’t me that pushed it.
I speak out because silence didn’t save me.
I share my stories because someone else out there might be sitting in their own storm, wondering if they’re crazy for noticing the rain when everyone else insists it’s sunny.
This isn’t about revenge. It’s not about shaming anyone. It’s about healing. About understanding myself. About claiming space in a world that keeps trying to shrink me into someone I don’t recognize.
If that feels like dirty laundry to you, fair enough. But from where I’m standing, it looks like clean sheets hung out in the sun, honest, unfiltered, and mine.
And if it makes you itchy? Maybe you ought to ask yourself why.
Because if it’s dirty laundry, it’s only because somebody crapped on it before I got here. I’m just the one brave enough to hold it up to the light.
UNDER THE WILL... OVER THE DRAMA... 
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