UNDER THE WILL… OVER THE DRAMA…

How Does Someone Like Me Survive All This BS?

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Mae Faurel
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Raw. Reflective. With a Dash of Gallows Humor…

Some mornings I wake up and think: ‘How in the name of God am I still standing?’ I didn’t ask to be in a family feud. I didn’t ask to be gaslighted, stonewalled, lied to, or dragged through years of probate purgatory. And yet – here I am. Breathing. Kicking. Still writing. Still growing spuds and telling the truth.

I’m not a solicitor. I’m not rich. I don’t have a whole gang of supporters or a fancy name to throw around. I’m just a person who thought decency and fairness were values everyone shared. (Spoiler alert: they don’t.)

There have been days when I felt like giving up. Nights when my brain played every bitter scene on repeat. Whole weeks where I thought, ‘What’s the point?’ But then someone would remind me – ‘If you don’t stand up, they win.’

I’m not standing up because I love the fight. I’m standing up because someone bloody well has to. And here’s the thing: if you’ve been through this kind of nonsense – inheritance drama, family betrayals, narcissistic runarounds – you know. You know the feeling of shouting into the void, of seeing emails go unanswered, of watching people pretend they’re ‘above’ it all while quietly scheming behind the scenes.

So how do I get through it? Sheer bloody-mindedness. A few good friends. Gallows humour. Turf fires. Writing. And the deep belief that truth matters -even when it’s inconvenient.

Walking away might be easier. But staying true feels better. Drama? Gaslighting? I’ve had the full buffet. And yet here I am – boots on, kettle on, and still calling it like I see it.

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15 responses to “How Does Someone Like Me Survive All This BS?”

  1. Sanjay Ranout Avatar
    Sanjay Ranout

    Standing tall takes real courage, but then it should not be like someone throwing you everytime you are standing up, and then standup become a matter of everyday courage. Sometimes it’s better to kick out such adversaries from our way as there is definition for warrior and there is another for survivor and there is another sufferer.
    Well don’t take it as a advice of anything like that, I am just sharing my thoughts based on my understanding of a brief description about someone ‘s situation.
    Taken it as a metaphorical

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      I hear you, and I love the way you’ve put this. It’s true – standing tall shouldn’t have to be a daily battle against people or situations constantly trying to knock you down. There’s such a difference between being a warrior, a survivor, and someone stuck in cycles of suffering. And sometimes, the bravest thing isn’t enduring – it’s clearing the path and choosing peace for yourself. Thank you for sharing this reflection, metaphorical or not — it speaks to something many of us feel, but rarely say out loud. ❤️

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        Sanjay Ranout

        👍🏻🤞🏻

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  2. mosrubn Avatar
    mosrubn

    To me, it feels like my heart spoken out here. Minutes ago I was toying with the idea either to speak my mind and have all hell break loose upon me or keep my peace over an inheritance conflict.
    Recently I was trying to discourage a friend from joining politics because here it seems it has become a reserve of the “crooked”. But then I remembered the saying that if the elite shun politics, they will be ruled by idiots. And I thought that change can possibly come if someone is courageous enough to stand up to the system.

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      It’s like life loves to hand us these impossible choices sometimes – speak your truth and risk chaos, or swallow it and carry the weight in silence. Especially when it comes to family and inheritance… those conflicts cut deep because it’s never just about money, it’s about fairness, loyalty, and old wounds.

      And you’re right about politics too – it feels like a dirty game, but if good, thoughtful people keep walking away from the table, what’s left? Sometimes change starts with one voice, even if it shakes the room. Courage isn’t always loud though — sometimes it’s just standing firm in your truth, whether you say it out loud or not. Thank you for sharing this – it’s powerful and real. ❤️

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  3. mosrubn Avatar
    mosrubn

    Loyalty, fairness and old wounds are at the heart of it all. But a statement from a book I read, “Secrets of Happy Families”, keeps coming to me again and again, “the very people you disagree with are the very ones you will need to talk to.” And the last verse of 1 Corinthians 13; “These three will remain, faith, hope and love. But love is the greatest.”
    Thank you once again. I have been inspired.

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  4. Info-Man Avatar
    Info-Man

    That’s the spirit!!!! I seriously read this line again and again “I’m standing up because someone bloody well has to.” I loved this line , I think it’s quite motivational 💯💯💯💯 well done Mae aka Ms. Spirit Guide 🌟🌟.

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      Ahh, thank you! That line came from deep in the gut, so I’m chuffed it landed with you. Sometimes you just reach that point where you realise – if you don’t stand up, who will? And even if your knees are knocking, you do it anyway. Appreciate the love, warrior – and I’ll happily wear the Ms. Spirit Guide badge with pride!
      Mae xx

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        Info-Man

        😆😆😆

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  5. Joey Jones Avatar
    Joey Jones

    I love the pic you have chosen

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      Ty Joey x

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  6. Joey Jones Avatar
    Joey Jones

    I find a bullet proof vest and a warrior headdress works for me

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      😂 Love it! Now that’s a vibe I can get behind. A little armor for the body, a little flair for the spirit — the perfect combo. Might have to borrow that look for my next round in the arena. Stay fierce, warrior!

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  7. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    Your resilience is powerful. Standing firm in truth, even when it’s hard, reflects the strength God gives us. Keep going. He sees you and walks with you. 🙏✝️ You should read my last post… it kind of goes with this, as I’ve endured some trials that I don’t know how I got through them. Well, I know, but others might question them.

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      Thank you so much for this Wille. You’re right – resilience rooted in truth is a gift, even when it feels heavy to carry. I did read your post. It sounds like we’ve both walked some roads where the only explanation for getting through was God’s hand on us. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone in that.
      Mae

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