UNDER THE WILL… OVER THE DRAMA…

The Day I Realized I Could Spiritually Dropkick Bully Yates…

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Mae Faurel
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There’s a moment, somewhere between your seventh ignored email and your tenth gaslit memory, when something shifts. You don’t even realize it at first. You’re just sitting there, holding a mug of cold tea, thinking about how you’ve been dragged through the emotional hedge backwards yet again by the one-man chaos parade that is Bully Yates.

And then the thought hits you:

‘I could totally take him. Spiritually, I mean’.

Not physically – God no, I bruise like a peach and believe in non-violence (mostly). But in my mind’s eye? I’ve morphed into a full-blown spiritual warrior. Think ancient Celtic goddess meets courtroom realness meets rural sass. I’m robed in boundaries. Armed with receipts. Glowing with the radiant power of ‘No more of your sh**.’

He comes at me with the usual fog of deflection and half-truths and I just… levitate above it. Or maybe I dropkick him in the solar plexus with a flying boot of justice and ancestral wisdom. Hard to say.

The thing is, something clicked. I realized that I wasn’t just reacting to his nonsense anymore. I was watching it like bad theatre, popcorn in hand, occasionally pausing to check if anyone else saw the same absurdity I did.

I’m not saying the drama stopped. Oh no. The Faurel Hill Follies continue. But the way I carry myself in it has changed. I’m not a target anymore. I’m a spiritual bouncer in the nightclub of my own peace.

So if you’re out there dealing with your own Bully, be it a brother, a cousin or a well-dressed executor who couldn’t spell ‘ethics‘ if you handed him the letters – know this:

You’re allowed to picture yourself rising above it. Or roundhouse-kicking it. Or simply standing there in all your calm, grounded, spiritually-armored glory saying, Nah. Not today’.

Lesson of the Day:

Sometimes the most powerful move isn’t fighting back, it’s standing so rooted in your own peace that chaos trips over itself trying to shake you. Bonus points if you imagine it in slow motion with dramatic music.

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12 responses to “The Day I Realized I Could Spiritually Dropkick Bully Yates…”

  1. For Singles And Couples Avatar
    For Singles And Couples

    Sounds like you’ve most definitely passed the stage where their foolishness isn’t causing you to reflex react…well done you.
    The one which took me a while to get over was this (now I see) foolish need to correct all the lies spoken, to anyone foolish enough to listen to one side of a story.
    Calculated selective memory, still irks me, but, as I don’t swear, and won’t go the violent root, I tended to defend with sarcastic verbal blocks.

    Now, my super power in dealing with the village idiots, is to ignore them and leave them to gas-bag amongst themselves.
    Only Father Jesus knows, how I’m able to still love them.

    I really do hope you get through to the other side of all of this soon.

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      Hey,

      Thank you for the kind words and the support! I’m grinning at your ‘village idiots’ line – yep, Brother B and Fanny are definitely charter members of that club. Your journey to letting go of the need to correct every lie is so relatable. That urge to set the record straight when they’re spinning tales with their ‘calculated selective memory’ is real, but ugh, it can be exhausting. I love how you’ve leaned into sarcastic verbal blocks – bet those are some zingers! Your superpower of ignoring their gas-bagging while still holding love in your heart? That’s next-level, Jesus-guided wisdom right there.

      I’m working on getting to that other side, and your encouragement is like a little light in the fog. Any go-to strategies for staying zen when the idiots’ chatter gets loud?

      Much love,
      Mae

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        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

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        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

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      3. Mae Faurel Avatar
        Mae Faurel

        Oh boy, you’re dropping some real wisdom here, like a philosophical ninja! That old saying about not arguing with an idiot is gold -nobody wants to be the one looking like they’re wrestling a pig in the mud and losing! Let’s break down your epic breakdown of the ‘difficult human’ species:

        Option 1: Mentally not all there: You’re so right—patience is key when someone’s wiring might be a bit different. Un-diagnosed spectrum vibes could totally explain why some folks seem to be playing 4D chess with their logic while we’re stuck on checkers. Gotta give ‘em some grace!

        Option 2: Just plain evil: Yikes, the ‘I’m difficult and I LOVE it’ crew! These are the folks who probably cackle while stealing the last slice of pizza. Pure chaos agents—steer clear or bring a bigger pizza next time!

        Option 3: The combo platter: Oh no, the evil and unhinged hybrid? That’s like a supervillain origin story waiting to happen. Run, don’t walk, from these masterminds of misery!

        Keeping it real, though, your take is spot-on—figuring out which category someone falls into is half the battle. It’s like diagnosing a wild card in human form. Got any stories about dealing with one of these types? Spill the beans, I’m all ears!
        Mae

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        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

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        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

        Like

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        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

        Like

      7. For Singles And Couples Avatar
        For Singles And Couples

        Sometimes you just have to look at them as they really are…unwell.
        In all seriousness, they say never argue with an idiot, as a passer by may not know who the real idiot is.
        If you see them as not being mentally all there, it helps you to have patience with them.
        Many people who fit the bill are actually undiagnosed people on the spectrum.

        In saying all that, let’s keep it real.
        People who behave like they do are either…
        1) Mentally ill and probably on the spectrum, not thinking how regular people actually think and reason.
        2) Just plain evil, as they know what they’re doing and take pleasure in being difficult and inflicting misery.
        3) A combination of both…the most dangerous type of individual.

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      8. Mae Faurel Avatar
        Mae Faurel

        Absolutely agree – sometimes it’s about taking a step back and seeing them for what they are, without the rose-tinted glasses or the emotional charge. Whether it’s mental illness, un-diagnosed conditions, or plain old nastiness, the effect on others is still real.

        And yep, number 3 is definitely the hardest to deal with. The ones who know exactly what they’re doing but hide behind ‘not well’ or weaponize their issues to hurt others – dangerous is right.

        It’s a fine line between compassion and self-preservation, and I think the trick is knowing when to extend patience and when to protect your peace. Thanks for putting this into words so clearly. I am definitely dealing with number 3!

        Mae

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    For Singles And Couples

    Sorry Mae,
    Please feel free to remove the duplicates, my screen flickered then refreshed, showing me 5 copies of the same comment.
    I don’t know how that happened.

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    1. Mae Faurel Avatar
      Mae Faurel

      No worries.. life happens.. maybe something I needed to hear! lol

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