Episode 70 – What’s Eating Bully?..

What’s Eating Bully? A Lightly Cheeky, Slightly Spiritual Exploration…

Lately, between cups of tea and chats with old friends, I’ve found myself thinking about our dear Bully. Not in a keep him in my prayers kind of way (let’s not get carried away), but in a what makes a person behave like that? sort of curiosity.

And because I believe in looking for meaning even in the most maddening situations, I figured I’d share a few theories. You know – for anyone else dealing with a Bully-shaped energy vampire in their life.

Theory 1: The Fear of Irrelevance.

People like Bully don’t cope well when they realize the world spins just fine without them in charge. Every time someone laughs too loud, lives too free, or invites California friends over without seeking his holy approval, it’s a reminder that his power is a house of cards. And nobody likes seeing their empire wobble.

Theory 2: Big Trucks, Small Self-Worth.

I’ve said it before – when your self-esteem’s parked in the driveway, you better pray it’s got a full tank. All the noise, the new wheels, the look-at-me moments… they scream ‘please don’t notice how lonely I actually am.’

Theory 3: Unhealed Wounds and a Lifetime of Power Plays.

Once upon a time, Bully was probably a kid with soft spots and scrapes like the rest of us. Somewhere along the line, he learned that control felt safer than connection. Intimidation became his love language. And while it doesn’t excuse a damn thing, it does explain a lot.

Theory 4: Demons Hate the Light.

Some folks can’t stand people who glow without permission. Joyful, free-spirited, slightly rebellious humans? We’re walking trigger warnings for those still shackled to their own misery. It’s not you they hate – it’s the reflection you hold up without even trying.

Theory 5: You Staying Undimmed is the Ultimate Rebellion.

Maybe Bully wants me gone. Maybe he just wants me smaller, quieter, apologizing for taking up space. But neither of those are happening. The truth is, the more chaos he stirs, the brighter I seem to burn. And whether he likes it or not, my patch of grass under the stars isn’t up for grabs.

Final Thought…

I might never pin down exactly what’s eating Bully. But what I do know is this – I’m not here to shrink for anyone’s comfort. I’m here to live out loud, laugh too hard, and remind every other soft-hearted rebel that some lights were made to shine right through the darkest places.

To anyone else out there with a Bully in their world:
Keep shining. Keep showing up. And if you need me, I’ll be here, probably laughing at the absurdity of it all and plotting astral eviction notices with Sir Percival.

Lesson of the Day:

Some people aren’t angry at you. They’re angry at the freedom, joy, and peace you’ve managed to find without their permission. Shine anyway.