Ghosted by the Living..

When Executors, Siblings & Solicitors Vanish Like Smoke

Let’s talk about the silence. Not the dignified kind. The deafening kind.
The kind where emails are left unread. Phone calls fade into nothing.
The kind where you start wondering if your own grief has made you invisible.

Welcome to Ghosting: Probate Edition.

What Is Ghosting in the World of Wills?

You don’t need a Ouija board to know something’s wrong.
In inheritance disputes or family estate drama, ghosting shows up as:

Executors going off-grid.

Solicitors ‘in meetings’ indefinitely.

Siblings forgetting how phones work.

Entire family threads dying mid-sentence.

What remains? You – waiting. Wondering. Worn out.

The Emotional Toll: Silence as a Weapon

Let’s be clear, ghosting is not passive.
It’s a form of control. A subtle punishment. An unspoken ‘You don’t count’.

Here’s what it does:

Erodes your confidence – ‘Maybe I’m the problem?’

Breeds anxiety – ‘Are decisions being made behind my back?’

( I know there were!)

Magnifies grief – ‘I lost someone I loved in an odd way and now I’m losing everything else’.

It’s quiet cruelty. And it’s not okay.

How to Survive the Ghosting Games:

1. Keep Receipts (aka Documentation).

Start a log.
Date. Time. What you said. What they didn’t.
Screenshots. Emails. Even unanswered texts. It all adds up.

This isn’t being petty – it’s being prepared.

2. Set One Clear Boundary

No more chasing.
Send one calm, direct message:

‘I’ve reached out multiple times. If I don’t hear from you by [date], I will assume communication is being intentionally withheld and will proceed accordingly’.

Professional. Neutral. Unmistakable.

3. Talk to Someone Who Sees You.

Find your tribe, whether that’s a therapist, a friend or a stranger on a forum who’s been through the same inheritance maze.

Ghosting gaslights you.
Connection re-grounds you.

4. Protect Your Peace Like It’s Gold.

Stop refreshing your inbox like it’s going to save you.
Mute notifications.
Take one day a week where you do nothing related to the estate.
Turn silence into sanctuary.

They may be playing delay tactics.
You’re playing the long game with facts, strength and a damn good sense of humor.
If necessary, reach out to free legal clinics, support groups,or advocacy services. You have options.

You Deserve Answers and Respect.

Being ghosted in the wake of grief is brutal. But here’s the truth:

You are not the problem.
You are not overreacting.
You are not alone.

And no amount of strategic silence can erase your right to fairness, truth or peace.